Sidewalk Bends

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Bend Me Break Me

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Mirror Sphere

The labels we give ourselves often hurt more than the labels others attribute to us. When we see ourselves in the light, we are in the light. When we see ourselves in the dark, we cannot see. We struggle to find self-worth and in doing so we look to others for validation however we can attain it.

Sometimes it means doing, acting and believing in things we normally would not, all for the satisfaction of approval. But in seeking approval outwardly or even secretly, are we destroying ourselves? Are we selling our self-worth and in the end compromising all that we have, the things that make us whole?

In seeking approval or happiness through means outside of our own internal happiness do we not become fractured beings? We can easily tear ourselves in search of ourselves, but until we are able to look firmly at our heart and soul, we will keep looking as if looking into a mirror held against another mirror.

The image we see of ourselves becomes so muddled that we cannot help but ask others what they see. But what we forget is that when we ask others to tell us what they see of us, we have already biased the other’s view.

It is a rare person who can tell another what they see with no strings attached. It is an even more rare person who can accept it and act upon it.


Easy to Compare

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Do not have pity on the dead for many have found peace beyond the veil we call life.
Do not have pity on the poor for many have found happiness outside of material wealth.
Do not have pity on the old for many have experienced a life we can only imagine.
Do not have pity on the young for they have a wisdom that has not yet been lost.
Do not have pity on your neighbor for he lives his life.

It is easy to compare our lives to others. It is easy to extend our wants and desires onto others. But can we allow others to be for the sake of being? Can we allow others to live for the sake of living? Can we allow others to love for the sake of loving? Our fears are our fears and we should not allow them to be another’s. Our desires are our desires and we should not allow them to be another’s. Life is difficult enough when we are trying to discover our own path, and it becomes that much more difficult when we try to forge a path for others.

So when we look on those we love, and even those we just meet, perhaps we can do others more good, by giving them the tools to forge their own path. Perhaps we can be better parents, better partners, better friends and better people by allowing others to find themselves, in their own time, and in their own way.

Do not have pity on others. Do not have pity on yourself. Instead, live this life. Live this moment for all that it is worth. Live it, not to please, or to appease. Live it to be you and do not have pity.

Written by Sidewalk Bends

April 16, 2012 at 11:39 pm