Sidewalk Bends

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Cost of Happiness

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happy faceThe perfect life, the dream; It doesn’t exist unless we make it exist. By our doing we force our dreams to become a reality. But what are those dreams? Are they the things that we tell ourselves will make us happy? Is it the dream of wealth, the dream of being heard and recognized, the dream of fame, the dream of comfort through worldly or emotional needs? What is it that drives us?

My dream or so it was a long time ago as a child was to be happy, for my family, my parents to be happy. It was for a world with peace. I wasn’t sure about everything else. I saw that not having to worry about money made some happy, or rather made some think they were happy. I saw that those who had prestigious jobs or a higher education made some think they were happy. I also saw that receiving presents or buying cars and being seen made others think they were happy. All the while, in the back of my mind, but at the front of my heart, I still clung onto that dream of peace, internally and externally for others.

I was never sure how to achieve that dream, my dream as a child. Sometimes I thought the best way to achieve it was to force it on others. Other times I thought I could take away people’s choices, or make a person feel there was no other choice but mine. Demonization and using guilt were other ways. None of these ways seemed to work, at least not for long. People were making choices that seemed to agree with what I thought I wanted, but not always because they truly wanted to make that choice. Some felt pressured. Some felt guilt ridden. Some did it to show face.

What’s peace, without open acceptance? It’s meaningless. What’s happiness if it’s temporary, or comes at the cost of someone else’s happiness? It’s meaningless. Your dream, and my dream; Perhaps they are the same, or perhaps we envision their realization differently? But is what is seemingly good for one, also good for all? At what cost will your happiness or my happiness come?

The cost of happiness…is free.

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Driving Force

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The sorrow of men and women do not drive action, it is the healing heart. Peace is galvanized through unconditional acceptance and understanding, not through brute force, or even calculated action. Peace built on deception and exclusion is not peace but rather a temporary replacement for previous lies. Like a building built out of rubble, it too will collapse.

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September 26, 2011 at 7:21 pm

A Hunting We Will Go

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wolf eats manWhen a wolf knows he’s a wolf, what will you tell him? Will you convince him he’s a man? Will you try to tame him like a domesticated animal? Will you tell him not to sharpen his teeth at the dinner table? Will you scold him for howling at the moon? Will you tell him not to slaughter the sheep?

When a wolf thinks he’s a man, what will you tell him? Will you dress him as you please? Will you hide him from himself? Will you introduce him to your friends? Will you call him by his name? Will you turn your back with ease? Will you unleash him upon your enemies?

End Your Suffering

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There is so much suffering in the world and the worst part of it all is that we all do it to ourselves. Brother is pitted against brother, sister against sister and family against family. Whether out of jealousy, or perceived slights, we hold our anger above the heads of others. As if to use our emotions as pity strings, they are used as weapons in a game of manipulation and hurt. Instead of speaking kindly, our words are used to slander. Instead of loving thoughts, anger and hate are born out of frustration. Instead of calm action, we succumb to the weight of all the pain that has been stored from events long since passed.

Frustration begets anger. Anger begets hate. Hate begets suffering. And yet, all of it could be prevented. Born out of expectations, our frustrations fester. Our anger begins to boil and as each moment passes; our assumptions lead us closer to the edge. Continue to feed the anger, and we will be met with more anger. Feed the spirit love, and it will know no anger. Feed the spirit love, and it will know understanding. Fill the spirit with love and there will be no need for forgiveness. Fill the spirit with love, and watch the pain subside.

depression; photo by: Mindy Ricketts
Photo by Mindy Rickett

Suffering is not in the control of others, but is only given strength by our own choices. We can choose how we feel. We can choose to accept, or we can choose to deny. We can choose a path of calm seas, or we can choose a path of raging waters. The choice to suffer is ours. The choice to live in peace is also ours. Although we may think others hold us captive by their thoughts and their actions, we have no one to blame but ourselves. End your suffering. Choose to feel Love.

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May 14, 2010 at 10:01 pm