Sidewalk Bends

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Driving from the Backseat

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highwayThere are things in life that have to take its course. Although we would like to have control over every single aspect of every event that happens to us in life, we have to understand that what happens is not always understood right away, or ever for that matter. Grabbing on to every bit of life for the sake of feeling in control only leads us to doubt ourselves when the things we think are going to happen don’t quite match up with what we’ve told ourselves.

The road starts to disappear, a clear path seems to be overgrown with obstacles, and what we are left with is the trust that we’ll get through it all. We can grab the wheel of control tighter or we can let things take its course. However at some point we have to understand that no amount of maneuvering or trying to drive from the backseat will change the outcome. It only adds to the stress and to the feeling that everything has slipped from our grips. So in the end we can sit and enjoy the ride or we can try to avoid facing ourselves.

This does not mean taking a back seat to life, but quite the opposite. It means enjoying every aspect of it. It means not counting the time. It means not worrying about what’s in back of you or necessarily what’s two steps in front of you. It means living for the moment, regardless of what comes. It means accepting the lessons of life, whether they come as happy moments or heartaches. It means learning to take joy even in those difficult moments when we find it difficult to stare ourselves in the mirror.

We’ve got to face this road, but not alone, never alone. That is a choice, like all other choices, made from a place of love and serenity, or from a place of fear and loathing. Though we might sometimes come from a place of fear or hurt, it’s never too late to turn a new leaf, to shine a light on a difficult moment, and enjoy life.


Watching Loved Ones

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Loved one in pain.There are times in life when the best thing we can do for the ones we love is to let them be, to allow a person to live their own life. Although it may hurt us to see the ones that we love and care about feel a pain we deem unnecessary, there will come a time when we will not always be there to help them. And so perhaps the best thing we can do is to give them the tools to get out of tough situations. Perhaps the best thing we can do is to be there when the other person decides they truly want help.

Each one of us has our own lessons to learn. Although we would like to spare others from the difficulties we have had to face, there are times when we must learn to step back. They may stumble, they may falter and they may do it many times over, but in the end, it is they who must learn to pick themselves up. It is they who must learn to dust themselves off and to keep going. Stepping back does not mean not caring. It does not mean walking away. It simply means loving someone enough to allow them to love themselves. If they can learn to love themselves and in turn learn to share this love with others, that is all one can ask for. Perhaps one day when that love is realized on both ends, there will be understanding. There will be no more pain. There will be no more frustration. There will just be love, a love that was always there, but not always accepted.

Written by Sidewalk Bends

June 10, 2010 at 7:29 pm