Sidewalk Bends

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Transitory Experience

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Much like death, life is a transitory experience. The lines that separate life, death and the “next life” are blurred at best, marked by tears of misunderstanding and memories as blurred as the lives they separate. Memories become placeholders, but more importantly they become lessons, not just for this life but for all of whom you would share your life.

Each life, each soul, not only becomes a library of lessons but a testament of the divine for we are all witness to the divine in every waking and no(n/w) waking moment. We are witness to the divine unfolding.


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July 11, 2013 at 5:44 am

Life’s Blessings

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sunlight blessingLet us be careful not to compare our blessings to the blessings of another, lest we compare our trials and tribulations. Though we are very much the same, we each arrive in this world with different lessons, and we come to understand these lessons in different ways and through different means. We should take care not to compare our heartaches unless we have walked in the shoes of another. It is through the trials that we have overcome and through the blessings in each of our lives that we come to understand this world and our place in it.

In seeking the blessings of another, and in coveting another’s place in existence, we fail to understand our existence. We seek what we cannot understand, and in giving in to our desires we distract ourselves from the truth. No one person is given more or less blessings than another, and no one person is given more strife and heartache than another. We are simply given what we need in order to find ourselves. We are given what we need, no more and no less. And in what we are given, it is our choice to call them a curse or a blessing, for surely they are one in the same.

We are an expression of love, but only when we are ready to express this love in all the things that we think and do, can we fully appreciate the blessing that is life itself. May all of life’s blessings find their way to you.

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June 4, 2012 at 6:40 am

Burden or Gift

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It is not a burden to feel a person’s pain if we care enough to help them through it. It is not a burden to hear the heartache of a friend or a stranger if they themselves can release a weight that brings them suffering. It is not a burden to wipe the tears off someone’s face if it allows them to stare at the world without shame again.

People come to us for different reasons. Sometimes it is so we can help them to see themselves better, or to gain understanding from a situation. And other times it is so we too can learn from others. Friends or acquaintances from years past show up to give sage advice. Strangers from nowhere give reassuring smiles. Other times the wind blows just right, and a thought or memory is stirred.

Whether we perceive these things as burdens or powerful gestures that we are loved is up to us. Despite how we decide to accept or reject the people or things that come into our lives, it will not stop the reminders. It will not stop the reminders that we are all loved. It will not stop the reminders that we are all part of something very special. Whether we choose to see it now or later, that gift is always there.

Everyone’s Got a Story

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Scraped knees.
Monkey bars.
Everyone’s got a story.

Ice cream.
Waffle cone.
Everyone’s got a story.

Everyone’s got a story.

Sleepless nights.
Early mornings.
Everyone’s got a story.

Happy smiles.
Worn frowns.
Everyone’s got a story.

Warm embrace.
Everyone’s got a story.

When are you going to tell yours?

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May 28, 2011 at 5:53 am

Lost Opportunities

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If we concentrate on the shortcomings of others, it diverts us away from the lessons someone can teach us. If we concentrate on the perceived slights that someone has committed against us, then we take time away from understanding ourselves. If we can look at ourselves as students of life, then perhaps we can appreciate the things that others may begin show us, or bring out of us. Rarely is anyone the direct cause of our anguish for we may choose to feel hurt or threatened by another’s actions, or we may look to the blessings that life has provided us.

A person on the highway cutting us off may show us our level of patience. A crying child may show us our desire for love and acceptance. A beggar on the street may show us our level of compassion or the priorities we have set for ourselves and others. The point is we are all here to teach each other, but if walk into life thinking we have it all sussed out, we squander the great opportunities that this life has to bring.

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February 25, 2011 at 11:41 pm

No Shame

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There are times in this life when the problems we face and the lessons we learn are not just meant for us individually, but are meant to be shared. There is a stigma in many societies that if we get ourselves into a problem or into a predicament, that we must learn to solve them on our own. But the truth is, it is okay to ask for help. It is okay to share with someone that we can’t always solve a problem on our own. As lonely as this life can sometimes seem, it was never meant to be lived alone. Though it is true that in the end we must all make choices on our own, it does not mean that we cannot learn from others. It does not mean that we cannot get support from others. But the first step in getting help is that we must not be afraid to ask for it.

There is no shame in not knowing everything. There is no shame in being hurt or sad. There is no shame in needing a helping hand. There is no shame in taking advice. Once we realize that all the stones cast out in all directions come back to us, there is no shame in anything, for the load you carry, is the load we all carry.

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April 13, 2010 at 5:58 pm