Sidewalk Bends

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Be You

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Do not judge or allow yourself to be judged. No one person knows more than another chooses to know or not know. Know your intent, and worry not about the intent of another, lest you let another live or dictate your life. Be as you are, not what you dream yourself to be, or what society, family or friends have deemed appropriate. Your life is not measured by those who necessarily agree with you or like you, but by how you choose to live your life. It is not measured by time, wealth, or stature, but by your tears, your compassion, and your actions. It is measured by the love you give and the love you share. Live your life, but not in the shadow or expectations of others. Live it because it is you. Be you.

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July 27, 2012 at 6:56 pm

The Sufi Way

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whirling dirvishA shepherd of men and women does not need a stick nor a lashing tongue. With his heart, he guides. He has no need to dismantle the gods of others, for he knows his place among all of creation. Superior to none, he does not dissuade those who are seen to be inferior. Blind to comparisons, he takes joy in all that is.

There is no better day, or another tomorrow; there is now. There are no loose threads, or misplaced beads; there simply is. There is no hope or regret; there is eternal acceptance. From the newest newborn to the most eldest among us, there are only wise men and women. There is no first or last and no best or worst. There is just the divine in infinite expression.

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July 15, 2011 at 4:24 am

Fullest Potential

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To help another realize their fullest potential is to help understand our own potential. In order to progress through life there are many who believe that they must put another down. Some believe that in order to succeed that others must fail and that for there to be a winner there must also be a loser. Winners and those who succeed by whatever means are placed on pedestals, while those who struggle to play the game that society has built up so well, are relegated to the outskirts of society.

We have names for them. Sometimes it’s a racial slur. Sometimes it’s a religious slur. Sometimes it’s a putdown against one’s mental acuity, but always it’s a derogatory term meant to cause harm. We teach our children these ideas and these hurtful words, and yet we expect them to be loving and caring people. We make comments under our breath about perceived slights and then we wonder why our children repeat the same slurs.

Rather than trying to place ourselves above others, or to treat life as if it were some contest, what if we decided to help others reach their fullest potential? What if reaching our own potential was not at odds with helping another? Would you be more apt to help? Would you stop what you were doing even if it meant slowing down? Perhaps we can help each other reach our potential.


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June 14, 2011 at 4:52 am

Desert Light

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flame in the desertDo not turn your back on love. When all seems lost, and you are walking in the desert aimlessly seeking a way out, do not turn your back on love. Do not follow the haphazard as they flee into the night. Do not turn your back on those who would only show a way out. Do not turn your back on those who would only remind you of what is possible.

Hold your chin up and remember who you are. Hold your chin up and remember the love inside. Hold your chin up and enjoy what is all around. Worry not about those who would proclaim doom. Worry not about those who have run in fear. Worry not about the desert night. Follow the guiding light of your heart.


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Lord BuddhaA teacher is not measured by the number of students under his guidance or the number of devotees who seek his tutelage. He is not measured by how many masters he has guided or how long he has taught. He is not measured by the brilliance of his aura or the number of pages he’s written. He is not measured by the words that spill from his mouth, or the clarity of his visions. He is not a measure of the angels who keep him company or the devils who lay in wait.

A true teacher does not seek to be known but seeks to know. He sees himself in others and wishes only that others should see themselves. A teacher does not take over another’s burdens but helps others to put theirs down. A teacher does not try to convert but allows for choice. A teacher does not force capitulation, but waits with an open door. A teacher does not seek out students, but seeks to learn from they who would call themselves students.

A teacher is a measure of his heart. He is a measure of his love. When his love is unconditional, he is immeasurable.

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March 14, 2011 at 7:22 pm

Set Them Free

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black sheepA true shepherd knows when to gather the flock. He knows when one is lost or chooses to wander. He knows when it is time to let the flock go and to explore on their own. The shepherd knows that each individual may choose their own path, and that no matter how far they wander, they will come back when the time is right. And if they do not come back, he will know he has done his job, for the lost becomes the found, and chooses to lead on their own.

To be a teacher means knowing when to step back. It means understanding that not all that is taught will be accepted. It means allowing for choice. It means allowing for freedom. It means love despite frustration. It is understanding that the student does not belong to the teacher but is only with the teacher for temporary care. It is patience in the face of denial and refusal. It is loving guidance in the cries of despair.

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March 14, 2011 at 7:15 pm

Spiritual Guidance and Chat

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If you are seeking spiritual guidance or advice, or would just like to discuss spirituality even as it pertains to different belief systems, please join us in chat. All beliefs and opinions shall be respected. Please note that users may have beliefs contrary to your own. We encourage everyone to share their path. This venue is free to all and does not require any membership. Come as you will. Share as you will.

Live Love

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God is more than just some energy.
Love is more than just some energy.
We are more than just some energy.

Learn to love, and you will see God’s face.
Learn to have compassion, and you will have God’s grace.
Learn to understand, and you will be understood.

Speak truthfully from the heart that you may not betray your spirit.
Think without malice that no harm should come upon you.
Act without thought of the future or the past, that you may realize the present.

All or None

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We should be careful with the all or none approach. After all, there are different versions of the Bible and different versions of the Koran, and different versions of the Torah for a reason. For whatever reason there were discrepancies. Some we can easily attribute to language, and others we can attribute to intent. With language, we can at least study lineage, but with intent, we have nothing but our own intent and the speculation of another person’s intent. But even with language, there is debate. For instance the passage about Jesus walking on water has two meanings, though I am opposed to neither. One suggests that Jesus literally walked on water. Another interpretation is that Jesus walked by water, because supposedly the usage of the word “on” in that time period meant the same thing.

The all or none approach also becomes dangerous because we are putting the trust of our beliefs into the abilities of other men. For instance, why were some gospels included in versions of the bible and others were not? What were the political motives during that time? When were the stories written? I have no doubt that the Holy Spirit guides. I have no doubt that God influences, but I do doubt the abilities of men. Free will to me is given for a reason. It allows us to trust what we are given in whatever form it is given, or it allows us to discount. Always my question when making decisions is, what would God have of me? By looking solely to the source, I can have no doubt.

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April 14, 2010 at 10:14 pm

One Choice

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It has been said that angels have freewill. They make choices as we do, but we never hear about them having guides. Could it be perhaps because their guide is God? Some might say that angels have to obey God, but I’m sure many have heard about the rebellion of angels who followed Lucifer. They made their choice, perhaps not knowing what the repercussions or punishment might be. We might now be asking ourselves, if angels do not have guides why are they so loving in their nature, or we might wonder why those who have not strayed, do not stray. Could it be that in seeing the truth and in living the truth, they realize what is lost or can be lost? Could it be that when your heart/spiritual heart has felt the love that exists everywhere and in everything, that there is really only One choice. Sure, one could shun this choice, but for what purpose? If you could be connected to all that is, all that was, and all that ever will be, why would anyone want to be removed from this feeling? Perhaps wonderment/temptation drives us to ask, and in making that choice to turn our backs, we turn our backs and forget what it’s like to be loved and to love. When that love is missing, or rather when we choose to not see it, we do all we can to get to back to that state of bliss.

We look to others to see what they have done. Some claim to be at peace at yet behind closed doors their life is in turmoil. Others may speak about peace and preach love, but behind closed doors they count the coffers. Still others may appear to be in a serene state of mind, while in reality, they fight back the fear that creeps from within. Still others, live their lives going about their daily business, but they love. They share the joy they have experienced in this life with those they meet. They smile, they stop to offer assistance when they can, they speak no ill will towards others, they spread joy, and all the while we look pass these people. Why is that? We’re all in the same boat after all, trying to learn, trying to figure out who we are.

So who are we going to listen to, someone who had their chance to make their own choices and who now wishes to make those choices through others, or are we going to start listening to our own hearts? When you are asked why you made your choices, are you going to say it was because a guide told you it was the best way, or are you going to say it was because you felt it was right at the time? Were you listening to the influences of your mind, or did you allow yourself to feel through your heart?

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December 12, 2009 at 5:59 pm