Sidewalk Bends

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Finding Oneself Again

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When we hold on to our own personal truths so tightly, it is easy to lose sight of the greater picture. In the hopes of justifying ourselves and our past actions, we can often overlook all that is around us. Clouded in our own beliefs, we can lose perspective as we begin to discount others including those we hold dear.

As we find ourselves in more self-isolation, we must ask whether we have really followed the truth, or forsaken it out of fear of being wrong, or pride for wishing to be in the right. As if to hold our arms crossed against our chest, we can often find ourselves defending something without asking “why?” Why if we have truly found inner peace do we defend something so strongly and disallow others from finding it themselves?

No amount of preaching, repetition, or immersion can force a person to understanding without first the will and the desire to understand. This comes differently in each person, but we must be patient enough to allow it to bloom in its own time and nurture it with love from all sides.


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November 28, 2011 at 7:44 pm

Out of the Mouths of Babes

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child: “What does it mean, God?”

parent: “I don’t know honey. What does ‘God’ mean to you?”

child: “God means to love yourself.”

Earlier this afternoon, I used the word “God” in front of my son, and the preceding conversation ensued. Initially when my son asked me the meaning of God, I hesitated to give him an answer because I wanted him to form his own belief. I wanted him to come to his own understanding without being spoon fed my beliefs or the beliefs of my wife and our families. Little did I know that he would teach me. At four years old, he was very matter of fact, as if to say, “Dad, you are looking too hard. It’s right there in front you.” And so he was right. Love yourself.


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deconstructing the worldWe can spend a lifetime tearing things apart, deconstructing beliefs and trying to build new ones. But what purpose does that serve? We can find all the ways in which we are different but what does that do except separate us. We look at someone, hear their thoughts and their aspirations, and then we proceed to bin ourselves into appropriate labels. What have we accomplished by doing this? Have we done anything to understand each other? Are we closer to understanding ourselves? Some might argue that we are, but unless we can look beyond the differences, we might never realize there is something beyond that.

Things might appear random, but we are, by design. We are by our own choice, and by the will of He who created us. To some that may seem a contradiction, but perhaps with a love that has no strings, or conditions, we can allow each to have their own path. We can allow each to decide their own fate. We can allow each the room to grow, to spread their own wings. And although some may struggle to find themselves, we are each given that chance. Who is anyone to take that choice away? Who is anyone to say their path is the path. We each know what we know by our experiences. Though we might like to compare them to others, each is like a diamond, with its many facets. Each experience points us to another experience, and so on and so on. And so perhaps in time, when each is ready, we will all find a common understanding. Perhaps that is heaven. Perhaps that is unconditional love. Perhaps that is God. Perhaps that is creation. Perhaps that is the destination. Perhaps that is the beginning. Perhaps that is the path.

To Know

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There is no need to boast of one’s own beliefs lest one is unsure of them self. To know does not mean to convince other’s of one’s views. To know does not mean to speak over others. To know does not mean to shout. To know does not mean to be known. To know is to share. To know is to invite. To know is to feel to the very depths of one’s core. To know is to love. To know is to understand that we do not always know.

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May 16, 2010 at 6:30 am

Lost in the Desert

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Line of cars in the desert.Imagine a road that leads to a destination. There is long line of vehicles and they are moving slowly. You can only see the car in front of you. You can’t quite see the destination, but you have an idea where the road will end. Suddenly cars start to split off to form another column moving parallel to you. Every other car moves to form the new column. For a while all the cars are going in the same direction, until there is a fork in the road. The newly formed column takes one road and you and the others take another road. You start to ask yourself, which column should you be following, and how long do you follow. Do you stay as long as you feel comfortable and as long as there are others who keep you company, or do you decide to venture off? Who is to say the car in front of you knows the way? Could it be they were just following the car in front of them? What if there were many splits and newly formed columns, but you were only aware of what was happening in front of you? How do you find your way home?

Even more, what if the cars were individuals? What if the columns of cars were different beliefs? What if the road was life? What if the destination was God? What if it wasn’t God? Who or what are we to trust? Would you leave the answer to these questions in the hands of others, or do you decide? Perhaps we’ll never know the answer to any of these questions, but we can trust? We can choose to trust or we can follow blindly.

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November 23, 2009 at 7:26 am