Sidewalk Bends

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Looking for Oracles

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If you spend your time looking for oracles you will find them. If you spend your time looking for confirmation, you will find it. If you spend your time looking for pain and destruction, you will find those too. Look hard enough and you will find most anything. The question is, is what we seek merely a distraction? Is what we seek even good for us? Does knowing the reason behind something always matter? Finding explanations that match our preconceived notions of how the world should work or how others should behave doesn’t necessarily make for a better life.

We can search for the things we think will make us happy, but if it’s not really the truth, or if it distracts us from a greater love, or a greater happiness, what have we done? Have we wasted our time? Some will say “No,” because at least we will have traveled a path to tell us what not to do, but those paths can be infinite? Yes, those experiences give us perspective, but we must also ask ourselves, how far do we want to sink before we will put up our heads to breathe?

It’s not necessary to suffocate ourselves before we are ready to accept what life has to offer us, even if it’s not quite what we expected. Try to find peace, and we are met with road blocks. Try to find love, and we put conditions on how that love should be given and received. Try to help others, and we hold it against a person if they are not ready for the help.

Perhaps if we could just learn to appreciate what comes in life, we will be able to see all the blessings that have been bestowed on us. There won’t be that need to complain about the aching back, the weather that isn’t quite perfect enough, or the lack of sleep from a mind that endlessly worries about what to do next. We can either spend our time searching for oracles or we can enjoy life.


20 Questions

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You haven’t known me until you’ve asked the right question…

What’s your name?
How old are you?
Are you married?
Do you have any children?
How old are they?
What do you do for a living?
What do you do for fun?
Where do you live?
Where do you work?
Where did you grow up?
Do you have any siblings?
What month were you born?
What’s your sign?
What kind of music do you like?
What kind of books do you enjoy?
Do you believe in God?
Do any of these questions matter?
Who are you?
Who am I?
Who are We?

Seeing Eye to Eye

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Having a firm belief in something doesn’t necessarily make something true. Life is often left up to interpretation, with each of us making our own decisions as to what to believe. Some find themselves on the same road, while some find themselves standing all on their own. But which way does the scale lean? Should a belief carry more weight just because there are others to pat your back and say, “Bravo, this must surely be the way,” or should the person who stands by them self have an equal say? After all, most people tend to rely on what is told to them by others, or what has been written in history books or religious texts. Which people should be trusted? Which texts are more valid? With all these resources, surely one of them or a few of them must be right? How can one determine which is the right choice? Some say it is a matter of the intellect, and still others say it is a matter of the heart or gut intuition. But again, how does one know they are using their mind, or their intuition?

In an age where information flows so freely, or perhaps more freely than it ever has in the history of man, perhaps we are looking to the wrong resources? Perhaps the answers are not to be told by any one person or from any one book? Perhaps life’s answers do not only rest in the advice from friends and strangers, or from voices from the past, but also in our own life experiences? Perhaps life’s answers are with us at every step, always evolving and taking shape, but never really changing completely? Regardless of where we decide to look, even if it is deep within ourselves, we must all make that choice on our own. We may each think we are choosing different paths, and we may think we are alone when we make those choices, but there is always a guiding voice. Sometimes seeing eye to eye does not mean agreeing on something, but it means accepting someone for who they are.