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Millions of Pieces

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When looking at life, it seems intrinsic that we should know our life and know ourselves well. Even without much effort it is reasonable to assume that we know who we are and yet for many it is a struggle. To know ourselves requires not only that we know the individual but also the individual parts by itself and as part of the whole.

The struggle does not come from lack of memory but from lack of identity. To be part of a whole does not mean to destroy oneself beyond recognition, and to be an individual does not mean to forsake the rest of existence.

Some bandy around the word “balance”. On the surface this appears to make sense until we ask ourselves what is this balance. Is balance an even divide between what is right versus what we want to be right? Is balance defined by each individual depending on their understanding of self? Is balance simply the “struggle,” but in terms more palatable to our current beliefs? Perhaps balance is none of these and is simply the constant flux and process of understanding.

A pillar in a sea of waves understands that it is not the waves that must stop, but instead our struggle to fight them that must cede.

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June 28, 2013 at 6:58 am

Bend Me Break Me

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Mirror Sphere

The labels we give ourselves often hurt more than the labels others attribute to us. When we see ourselves in the light, we are in the light. When we see ourselves in the dark, we cannot see. We struggle to find self-worth and in doing so we look to others for validation however we can attain it.

Sometimes it means doing, acting and believing in things we normally would not, all for the satisfaction of approval. But in seeking approval outwardly or even secretly, are we destroying ourselves? Are we selling our self-worth and in the end compromising all that we have, the things that make us whole?

In seeking approval or happiness through means outside of our own internal happiness do we not become fractured beings? We can easily tear ourselves in search of ourselves, but until we are able to look firmly at our heart and soul, we will keep looking as if looking into a mirror held against another mirror.

The image we see of ourselves becomes so muddled that we cannot help but ask others what they see. But what we forget is that when we ask others to tell us what they see of us, we have already biased the other’s view.

It is a rare person who can tell another what they see with no strings attached. It is an even more rare person who can accept it and act upon it.

Broken Key

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broken key in lockUnderstanding alone is not the key. Understanding the truth and living the truth are two separate things. To live it is to breathe it. To live it is to be it, with every fiber, with every part of our being.

When the truth is forced it builds resentment. It builds anger, and it builds confusion. Confusion does not arise from questions of whether something is right or wrong, but from our desire to be without constraints, whether external or of the mind.

Each person must find their own key, in their own time. Through each individual’s experiences, they must find themselves, and we must allow it, for our path is our path, and no other’s. Like a parent with a watchful eye, we must allow ourselves to stand back. We must nourish without being overbearing, and most of all, we must love, unconditionally.

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February 21, 2013 at 5:24 am

Passing Trains

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Understanding alone does not lend itself to enlightenment. Knowledge alone does not lend itself to wisdom. Compassion alone does not lend itself to sainthood. Where these three converge is the heart of true understanding, the heart of true wisdom and the heart of true compassion.

Through each of our experiences we create a picture, a picture of the human condition. Each is a unique opportunity for us all to learn from each other. The moment we discard someone’s experiences, someone’s path to understanding, we hinder ourselves from a greater understanding of the truth.

It is boundless, unconstrained by the bindings of a book, a prayer, the written word and the spoken word.  To seek a path closer to the divine, is to understand that each individual’s path is a personal and intimate relationship. It is a relationship with all that is and will be. And so when we seek solace in solitude or solace in our own path, we must remember that just outside, the universe is waiting. The divine is waiting.

Where our paths meet, another begins.

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February 21, 2013 at 5:13 am

Bringing Down a Phalanx

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phalanxDisbelief and self-doubt are powerful in their ability to destroy oneself and even those whom would place their trust blindly with others. No matter how inclined one is to follow a particular path or mode of thinking, seeing the doubt that others may have in the same idea can often be detrimental to one’s own ability to believe.

Where a bridge stood or a rope supported one’s weight, the support fades and we are left to question our own faith, and our own motives. Have we followed others all along, or have we forged our own path? Are we truly comfortable in our own skin, or have we lived off of the support of others?

Doubt can bring a phalanx down, but when confronted with a chance to redeem oneself, there is no turning back. There is only Us in the end, no one stronger, smarter, or more prepared. There is only Us and yet all we have to confront is ourselves.

Looking for Oracles

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If you spend your time looking for oracles you will find them. If you spend your time looking for confirmation, you will find it. If you spend your time looking for pain and destruction, you will find those too. Look hard enough and you will find most anything. The question is, is what we seek merely a distraction? Is what we seek even good for us? Does knowing the reason behind something always matter? Finding explanations that match our preconceived notions of how the world should work or how others should behave doesn’t necessarily make for a better life.

We can search for the things we think will make us happy, but if it’s not really the truth, or if it distracts us from a greater love, or a greater happiness, what have we done? Have we wasted our time? Some will say “No,” because at least we will have traveled a path to tell us what not to do, but those paths can be infinite? Yes, those experiences give us perspective, but we must also ask ourselves, how far do we want to sink before we will put up our heads to breathe?

It’s not necessary to suffocate ourselves before we are ready to accept what life has to offer us, even if it’s not quite what we expected. Try to find peace, and we are met with road blocks. Try to find love, and we put conditions on how that love should be given and received. Try to help others, and we hold it against a person if they are not ready for the help.

Perhaps if we could just learn to appreciate what comes in life, we will be able to see all the blessings that have been bestowed on us. There won’t be that need to complain about the aching back, the weather that isn’t quite perfect enough, or the lack of sleep from a mind that endlessly worries about what to do next. We can either spend our time searching for oracles or we can enjoy life.

What is Right for One

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It’s difficult to watch those around us go through challenges, especially those challenges in which we think we have clarity. However, what is right for us may not necessarily be right for the other person. We each have to find what suits us and what can sit squarely in our hearts without any regrets. Though we might want to force our way by being louder, or by doing for another person what they can do themselves, we must not overstep our bounds.

We must allow others to make their own decisions even if we do not understand the reasons or motives behind them. It is not our place to ridicule or to guilt someone into a decision that suits us rather than the person who actually has to live with the choice. We have our chance and so we must allow others to have their chance as well.