Sidewalk Bends

Exploring the soul and it's reaches.

Driving from the Backseat

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highwayThere are things in life that have to take its course. Although we would like to have control over every single aspect of every event that happens to us in life, we have to understand that what happens is not always understood right away, or ever for that matter. Grabbing on to every bit of life for the sake of feeling in control only leads us to doubt ourselves when the things we think are going to happen don’t quite match up with what we’ve told ourselves.

The road starts to disappear, a clear path seems to be overgrown with obstacles, and what we are left with is the trust that we’ll get through it all. We can grab the wheel of control tighter or we can let things take its course. However at some point we have to understand that no amount of maneuvering or trying to drive from the backseat will change the outcome. It only adds to the stress and to the feeling that everything has slipped from our grips. So in the end we can sit and enjoy the ride or we can try to avoid facing ourselves.

This does not mean taking a back seat to life, but quite the opposite. It means enjoying every aspect of it. It means not counting the time. It means not worrying about what’s in back of you or necessarily what’s two steps in front of you. It means living for the moment, regardless of what comes. It means accepting the lessons of life, whether they come as happy moments or heartaches. It means learning to take joy even in those difficult moments when we find it difficult to stare ourselves in the mirror.

We’ve got to face this road, but not alone, never alone. That is a choice, like all other choices, made from a place of love and serenity, or from a place of fear and loathing. Though we might sometimes come from a place of fear or hurt, it’s never too late to turn a new leaf, to shine a light on a difficult moment, and enjoy life.


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  1. Driving from the back seat is okay, but unless you know how to drive it means nothing, in fact it means your to scared to get in the driving seat no matter the reason, and always remember this, whilst listening to a backseat driver you are not concentrating on the road in front of you, so therefore you are distracted and that can lead to accidents?
    If you choose to be a back seat driver then say nothing to distract the driver coz if you do, it means you take your own life in their hands?
    Better to get your licence to drive (from the university of Life) than give advice when you dont know anything about driving or guiding.

    Not meant personal to you bendy but they know who will read this.


    December 4, 2011 at 8:43 pm

    • “whilst listening to a backseat driver you are not concentrating on the road in front of you, so therefore you are distracted and that can lead to accidents?”


      No offense taken.


      December 5, 2011 at 6:53 pm

  2. 🙂


    December 5, 2011 at 8:18 pm

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