Sidewalk Bends

Exploring the soul and it's reaches.

End Your Suffering

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There is so much suffering in the world and the worst part of it all is that we all do it to ourselves. Brother is pitted against brother, sister against sister and family against family. Whether out of jealousy, or perceived slights, we hold our anger above the heads of others. As if to use our emotions as pity strings, they are used as weapons in a game of manipulation and hurt. Instead of speaking kindly, our words are used to slander. Instead of loving thoughts, anger and hate are born out of frustration. Instead of calm action, we succumb to the weight of all the pain that has been stored from events long since passed.

Frustration begets anger. Anger begets hate. Hate begets suffering. And yet, all of it could be prevented. Born out of expectations, our frustrations fester. Our anger begins to boil and as each moment passes; our assumptions lead us closer to the edge. Continue to feed the anger, and we will be met with more anger. Feed the spirit love, and it will know no anger. Feed the spirit love, and it will know understanding. Fill the spirit with love and there will be no need for forgiveness. Fill the spirit with love, and watch the pain subside.

depression; photo by: Mindy Ricketts
Photo by Mindy Rickett

Suffering is not in the control of others, but is only given strength by our own choices. We can choose how we feel. We can choose to accept, or we can choose to deny. We can choose a path of calm seas, or we can choose a path of raging waters. The choice to suffer is ours. The choice to live in peace is also ours. Although we may think others hold us captive by their thoughts and their actions, we have no one to blame but ourselves. End your suffering. Choose to feel Love.


Written by Sidewalk Bends

May 14, 2010 at 10:01 pm

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  1. beautifully said!

    I wonder what would you comment on this thought on suffering:


    May 16, 2010 at 9:22 am

  2. Hi Axinia,

    Posted a reply to your post on suffering. 🙂


    May 16, 2010 at 9:45 am

  3. “No expectations”–I think that you and I discussed that once or twice…But so much seems to ride on that concept, and on the knowledge that, as you say, anger only nourishes more anger, and resolves nothing.

    I agree that it’s a choice, but it takes a strong will and a lot of understanding and practice to be able to consistently make that choice. It takes vigilance at every moment, it seems.



    May 17, 2010 at 9:26 pm

    • My take is it’s a lot like surrendering. By that I don’t mean giving up. I can’t control what happens to me, how people decide to treat me or necessarily the circumstances I may find myself in, but I can certainly choose how I walk from a given situation. I think most people can agree on that. To me though, it’s also about trying to understand where others are coming from and also trying to understand how it is we got to feel a certain way. When most people get angry (myself included), we tend to lose sight of what got us angry in the first place. Instead of dealing with the original frustration, it becomes a beast all on its own.

      Sometimes the best way to get around that is stop what we are doing, push the reset button (I know…easier said than done), try to understand we are where we are at that moment, and then move from there. A good example is, our three year old tends to get really frustrated when he can’t get his toys or blanket to fit in a container or be laid perfectly flat like he wants. Telling him how to do it doesn’t help. Doing it for him doesn’t help. Yelling or getting mad (because he’s mad or frustrated) also doesn’t help. But when we stop him, look at him and tell him he can do it, he suddenly realizes that it’ll work. It might take some time, but it’ll work one way or another.

      So does it take work and vigilance, for me it does. I guess what I’m saying in the end is surrender to the moment.


      May 17, 2010 at 9:50 pm

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