Sidewalk Bends

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Validation Required

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Am I doing okay? Is this the right way? How do you do it? Is this also what you believe? I’m not doing this wrong am I? What am I missing? You agree with me correct?

Why is it that some of us have to seek validation from others before we can learn to accept ourselves? It seems that no matter what we do in life, we can’t seem to move on without another’s approval? Perhaps it is a lack of self-confidence or perhaps it is because we truly do not know. Perhaps we just don’t want to be alone, in self-perceived isolation. It is a difficult road to walk at times. It is good to ask when we truly do not know, but surely there comes a time when we have to learn to trust ourselves? Surely there comes a time when we have to decide what is right for us, despite what others say. To stand alone in one’s beliefs can be a scary thought. If we are alone in our beliefs could it be possible that we are in fact wrong, or is it possible that everyone else is wrong? No one can say for certain, but for whatever reason we take comfort in the company of others even if it means we suffer together and we are wrong together.

In the end perhaps no one’s word of validation is strong enough to lift the burden we place on ourselves. Perhaps it is up to us to learn to trust, to give in to the unknown. Let not the fear of what we do not know overcome us. Instead, let us take solace in knowing that truly we are not alone, because none of us knows all.


Written by Sidewalk Bends

December 10, 2008 at 8:06 am

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